Thursday, 1 January 2015

The NO. 1 Reason #Relationships Fall Apart


"The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image. Otherwise we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them."
- Thomas Merton

I made a remarkable discovery recently: People get attracted to other people for several reasons - most times because they are independent, forceful, powerful, in charge, in control, living their lives...doing their thing...being themselves.
Being attracted to this person, they decide to start a relationship. I am guessing they do so with high hopes. Somewhere along the relationship line, they try to change their companion...they become jealous when their partners are being independent...they give advice, restrict choices, limit vision, counter dreams and curtail freedom, thereby turning this once-wonderful relationship into some kind of Restrictive facility system.
Ultimately, they try to MAKE this person in their own image and likeness, which if you ask me is an Ultimate B.S.

The relationship cracks, shakes, and eventually falls apart...totally.

Maybe, Just maybe, These Relationships will go well and be right back up if people gave people (their partners) some space to be express all those qualities that caused the attraction in the first place.

Victory 'Relationship Counsellor' Anosike.


  1. How simple but deeply profound. I've re-learned something new today. Thank you!

  2. Yea. you are right. some relationships take away one's freedom

  3. @roastcornandube My Pleasure.... @Ruby, Truly


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